Why are women more attracted to men who aren’t single?
I’m curious to know why it is that many single women find men who are taken to be more attractive/appealing then men who are likewise single. Its as though there’s this mistaken notion that single guys are automatically “losers”. Is this attitude more pervasive amongst younger women(late teens through mid 20s) or is it age independent.
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im 19 and have always dated guys who are atleast 5 years older than me and is married or has a current girlfriend!!!…ask me why and i ll tell ya because…..its the chase baby…i always want what i cant have…once i have em under my grip…i get bored…and go huntin for mah next prey…horrible i know…but ive calmed down sum….hehehe…for now…
It’s age independent. I’m married and I went to a BIBLE study- the woman who hosted the bible study told me one day that she dreamed about having sex with me (wtf!??) She knew I was married…(!!!)
I have four theories
a) if someone else has him, he must be worth it
b) Want what we can’t get
c)Setting themselves up for failure so they can blame someone other then themselves
d) they just enjoy causing grief to others
lol i do think that it has to do with the fact that women want whats can be hard to get, and a man who has a girl or many girls makes him look successful
They aren’t single because they are amazing and we want amazing.
If they were lazy fat heads, they’d be single, and obviously we’d have no desire for them.
I’m not saying all singles are losers and takens are god,
I stole my boyfriend form three different girls. Buuut, he’s not the stereotypical boyfriend from heaven. But he makes me happy 
Sometimes theres a mutual attraction between the taken guy and the girl but on the other hand you can’t help who you fall for - you can tell yourself repeatedly that you don’t like them but if there’s chemistry and attraction is there its hard to break that! And then some girls are just in in for the thrill of the chase and enjoyment they get from breaking couples up for a one night stand!
Its not anyone of those in my opinion. I will be honest Im attracted to A LOT of taken men and its mostly because men who are taken already have what they want or really know what they want, and when a man knows what they want its makes life so much easier and they seem so much more understanding and settled! Honestly there are a lot of great single guys out there but usuall my notion of single guys is that they are either playing around, dont know what they want, or unstable, but NOT ALL of them, but definately over 50% of single men. Its not that single men are losers, its more like we girls dont want to be used and then thrown away like napkins when they are done, and when you see a man who is married or “taken” he seems like he’s got his mind set on life and is someone who wont misuse a woman…I think thats really the Major difference!
It MAY happen more with younger women just because they are so young they haven’t learned the ‘ropes’ yet, I think. But with all women and MEN by the way, it is a noted part of human nature to “want what you cannot seem to have.” Call it a animalistic instinct to pursue something or someone that “isn’t interested” or someone who is a “challenge” because they are married or with someone else. With some women its a challenge…you know the type…self confident to a point of not being able to pass a mirror. And with others its a “safety net.” They may not WANT to catch anyone but they WANT a sexual encounter and the FEELING of having a relationship that truly belongs to someone else. This is likely caused by fear of not being WORTHY of or being ABLE to get a TRUE One-on-one relationship of your own. But in my observation it is More than anything else a selfish based challenge toward WINNING, therefore PROVING that you (the woman) are the “better” of the two choices (the wife or mate is the other.) SAD…and most of the time when they DO win, they DON’T really win at all. Once they have em’ they don’t want them! Or they have proven to the man that HE CAN CHEAT and get by with it…so the same thing happens to them. Once they are a little “old” they get traded in for a “newer” model. What goes around, ALWAYS comes around.
Doesn’t have a THING to do with thinking single men are losers. BUT there is an element of these women who have a little point….they say that married men KNOW MORE of how to really treat a woman due to experience of course! So perhaps some single men, could stand a little lesson of sitting back and WATCHING what a good married man DOES to keep his marriage going…ie…opening doors, flowers and such!
Best I can do on the thought………
Bunny7
YES, I am just getting out of that phase and I am in my late 20’s. I think its because we lack(ed) the ability to see how stealing someones man can be a really messed up thing to do. When you get older, the stakes get higher and the relationships get more serious. You could potentially be ruining someone’s life, not to say the man is blameless, not at all. I think most women want to be in a relationship, so we see a man that is in a relationship and think okay thats what I want. We confuse the person with the idea of being a couple. I would always see a guy in a relationship (when I was single) and compare myself to the girl, “whats she got that I don’t have” etc.. All I know is that it doesn’t get you anything to act on those feelings except bad karma
I’d Guess the Thrill…
I went through a phase of dating (well.. *******) married women. It was fun and exciting. I never really looked for it, just seemed to happen alot..
When I go places with girls I seem to get more looks/conversations with women I don’t know. Maybe they just wonder What I got.. Why are there 5 nice looking girls hanging out with that guy? whats he’s all about?
This answer comes from a a free ebook, created by someone a part of the seduction community you can download at the link below my answer.
” Because men who are already in relationships are generally more confident and secure within themselves because they already have a woman/man. They aren’t under any social pressure to impress women and could care less if they go home alone, because they have a woman waiting for them there. This type of attitude is clearly visible to women, and they find it to be irresistible. “
they want what they cant have